While undergoing a divorce is never easy, engaging in confrontational behaviors will only make the process more difficult than it already is. Prior to going into your divorce proceedings, you need to make up your mind that you are going to do everything possible to avoid conflict with your spouse. Failure to do so can result in unnecessary disputes and also prolong the time and expense of your divorce proceedings. Here are a few tips from our Lowell divorce lawyer that you can use to help reduce unnecessary conflict during your divorce proceedings.
- Make a plan beforehand of what you want to accomplish. Doing this can help you to remain focus on the goals at hand and can help you avoid being sidetracked. Write down words or phrases that will help remind you of these goals and pull you back on track should you veer off of it;
- Change the way you speak to your spouse. If you and your spouse often found yourselves arguing throughout your marriage you should probably use a different tone during the divorce proceedings in an effort to reduce conflict;
- Fight fair. Do not engage in manipulative behaviors designed to “get back” at your spouse. Divorce proceedings are not the time for revenge;
- Listen. That means truly listen to what the other side is saying. Do not jump to conclusions or allow yourself to become angry over something you may only be assuming;
- Allow the other side to speak without interruption. This sends the signal that what they have to say is just as important to you as anything you may say and that you are willing to hear and understand their concerns; and
- Do not speak in anger. If you find yourself getting angry, take a deep breath and try to calm down before you speak.
Contact Our Lowell Divorce Lawyer
If you considering filing for a divorce or are currently involved in a divorce proceeding, contact your Lowell divorce attorney with the Law Office of Bruce A. Gage at (978) 384-1078 or (877) 829-0831 to discuss your case.